A mother’s life is constant giving and sacrifice, in the smallest, unseen, details in a day… She leaves the door open when she goes to bathroom so she doesn’t miss a sound, just in case. She showers with no privacy, constant interruption, and questions. She gives away her last piece of chocolate because she will be as satisfied sharing, making someone else happy. She loses an hour of sleep because someone crawls in her bed at the crack of dawn. She hangs up the call with the …friend she misses terribly to change a diaper. She is the last to eat because she has to feed everyone else first. And, she stands up while eating because someone always needs a refill. She turns off her music to play something more appropriate. She goes outside instead of checking her email because someone wants to play on the swing set. She skips a needed night out because someone has a fever. She gives up her afternoon runs because soccer practice begins. She records her favorite TV show because she is too tired to watch it at night. She spends the last five dollars in her wallet to buy someone a snack, instead of her coffee. She cries at the emergency room, but not because she is the patient. She gives up her career to stay home and be a mother and doesn’t regret it once. She puts her dreams on hold because there just isn’t even time to think about them… and would never change where she is. One can never truly understand how much a mother gives of herself… until one becomes one… ©jodihealy.com like/share
As a mother, often the littlest accomplishments by our children become our greatest successes. After 7 years of buckling 3 children into their car seats (every day, every car ride, every child), each time one started doing it themselves I felt like I won the lottery… And yesterday my youngest, my 3 year old, was gleaming ear to ear as I hopped in the back seat to do buckle him up, and he had done it himself. While these moments are bittersweet of letting go we also regain our independence, as they gain theirs. We forget how much we do daily in our role as a caretaker, and it isn’t until one of those “jobs” is removed do we remember how much, and how it once again feels, to only have to buckle ourselves… © Jodi Healy
Often we forget the environment is an integral part of life, even for adults, and that children learn through experiencing it; sounds, smells, sights, and touch of what is around them. A walk in the woods is a wonderful sensory experience for a child. At first I used to worry about them getting dirty, hurt, ticks, colds, and all the other million things mothers worry about, until I realized I was limiting them and buying into the fear based reality (and stressing myself and them out trying to stop them). In the end we are animals and nature is our home! Yesterday after dinner we put on our boots, went hiking in a foot of mud, splashed in the puddles, looked for animal footprints, and slid on ice patches. We were soaked when we got home but a hot bath at the end of the day made everyone sleep peacefully and soundly!
Bedtime routines are very important for children of all ages, especially young children. It is the end of the day for everyone! Everyone is tired and needs time to wind down. Routines and structure establish a child’s confidence and expectations. With a predictable routine, a child knows what is going to happen and feels secure and safe. Bedtime can be challenging, especially for mothers or caretakers who have been alone with the children all day with no break. Invent a mantra to keep your patience. Even if you do lose patience just communicate with your children the truth, that you are tired and need time alone. The most important piece is to never send your child to sleep thinking you are angry with them. Sleep is extremely important for children. It is the time they process all the information and stimuli from the day, and when their brain rests.
We, as mothers decided to share our experience, strength and hope with all of you. We all try to be the best mothers we can, and all want what is best for our new and growing childen. Sometimes our job is overwhelming and we feel very alone in our efforts, and even our struggles. You are not alone. We decided to write this blog to offer what we have learned and found to help you in your journey. We hope you find our content valuable, reassuring, and supportive! Thank you for joining us!